Sunday, November 11, 2012

PIO shots and the end of sexy time as we know it

Since my little bleeding scare a little before 14 weeks, I have been taking a 200 mg prometrium pill a day. I was only taking them while I was waiting for my once a week PIO shots to start. Dr Monty had me go through a nursing group who comes to my house to give me the shot. Unfortunately my insurance will only cover for them to come twice. I figured I would get the shots from my mail away pharmacy and the Hubby would give them to me. So many of you out there do it that way and you are doing it every day. I would only be getting it once a week. When I told Dr Monty he said he wanted me to get the injections and bring them in for him to give to me. I have no problem with him giving them to me, but I asked why he didn't want the Hubby giving it.

I believe all of you out there are doing it right and I don't want to worry anyone, but Dr Monty said that if it is given in the wrong place it can mess with your leg. Make it go numb or other things I guess if you hit a nerve. My Dr is very cautious and wants to make sure he does everything in his power to keep his patients happy, healthy and safe. I love that about him. I pray no one every has any issues with your PIO shots and I hope I didn't worry you now. You guys amaze me how you go though it every day for months.

So, I had my first PIO shot the other day. I am getting progesterone in castor oil 250 mg/ml in a 1 ml dose once a week. How does that compare with what you guys get every day? I have read from you guys lots of ways to prepare the site and positions to get the shot to make it as painless as possible. I asked the nurse about icing the area before and she said she didn't recommend it because the oil will thicken as it goes in. I asked about heat or massage after and she said I could do heat only if needed, but absolutely no massage. I figured I would lay down for the shot to keep my muscles relaxed. Instead she showed me a way to stand that moves the muscle to the correct position and makes it impossible for your muscle to tense up.

Stand behind a chair and lean on the back of it with your elbows. Keep your feet flat and turn your toes in toward each other as far as you can comfortably. Apparently this position moves your muscle to the perfect position and with your toes turned in it is impossible to tense up your butt. I tried before she gave it, you can't! I haven't experienced a shot in any other position, but when I got it I didn't feel the needle at all and only had a little bit if stinging once all the PIO was in. After the shot we sat down to go over some paperwork and by the time she left about 20 min later, the injection site looked and felt like nothing had happened. There was no lump of oil and it wasn't sore at all. I was shocked that there wasn't a bruise because I bruise very easily. The next day there was only a little blue right at the injection spot.

At my last OBGYN visit my Mom and MIL came with me since the Hubby was on a business trip. I desperately wanted to ask him if I was off of the modified bed rest and even more so if I was allowed to have sex again. Since my moms were with me, straight out asking was off the table.

At the previous visit I asked if I had all the same restrictions and without even saying it Dr Monty knew what I was asking. A big smile showed up on his face and he said "You are asking if you can have sex." I just smiled and then he turned to the Hubby and jokingly asked "Has she been chasing you around the house?" We all laughed because it basically is true even though I haven't really been chasing him around the house.

So, this time instead of actually asking, I just asked if I am still to take it easy. Dr Monty basically replied that yes I will be taking it easy for the rest of the pregnancy. I take that as no more sex. :( That means it will probably be about June/July before it happens again.

You all know how happy and blessed I am to have these babies inside me and I will do anything for them, but I'm not gonna sugar coat it. Not being able to make love to my Hubby is really difficult for me! I know there are many other ways to connect and be intimate, but no sex sucks!

When we were dating and before we started TTC it was care free, fun and no pressure. When we were trying, even though we tried really hard to keep it care free, there was always that elephant in the room. Always that pressure. As soon as I got pregnant it went back to the way it used to be. That amazing care free fun that we hadn't experienced in 3 years. It was really nice and now it's gone. Heck, we can't even have the pressure filled, less fun sex.

I'm not proud of it, but I actually broke down into tears the other day about it all. The Hubby and I have a wonderful, beautiful relationship, but not being able to connect with him on that level right now is really difficult.  Right now, when I keep feeling our love get so much deeper and I have all these amazing new feelings toward him. It is upsetting.

The Hubby feels so bad about how difficult it is for us. A little more for me than him since I take good care of him. He is trying so hard to be extra caring and tender toward me. Doing what he can to help us feel more connected and reminding me how this is not forever and who we are doing all this for.

I just have to keep reminding myself that I am doing the best thing for Roo and Squirt. Being careful and helping to keep them safe and in there as long as possible so they can grow big and strong and come home with us.

12 comments:

  1. We were in that same situation. Yeah, it's not ideal :/

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    1. Were you put on bed rest early or later in pregnancy?

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  2. AND, assuming all goes well, no sex for the first six weeks after birth :(. I was on pelvic rest for the last 5 weeks of my pregnancy, then the first 6 weeks after the babies were born.. For me, it has been hard to get in te mood now. Not only do we have babies interrupting things, making it almost impossible even if I wanted to have sexy time, it has been so long it has basically fallen out of my routine - not that it was routine, but like, it has been off limits for so long I kind of forget about it. It's weird and hard to explain. I wish I could get our pre-TTC sex life back but I don't think it will ever be the same!

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    1. Yea I counted the 6 weeks or so after. I'm due in April so I said June/July. So it will be a total of 8 or 9 months! I hope you guys get back into the grove. My Hubby and I are trying hard to keep the intimacy going. I know there will be so much going on after the twins are born and it will probably be difficult, but I hope we will be able to get back to it.

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  3. This post is the best case and point of how clinics differ. Mine said I could use ice if I wanted to, but decided not to. Definitely suggested warming the oil and massage afterwards. My husband hit a nerve twice and it was no fun. The oil works so well though, that it is worth all the uncomfortable feelings. Like you said, you are doing the best for the babies :)

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    1. Yea, everyone has a different way of doing things. Oh I'm sorry he hit the nerve. I feel no matter who does it there is always a chance of hitting something since everyone's body is different. I have heard such good things about the PIO and I am glad my Dr is doing everything he can to keep these babies in there.

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  4. So, maybe a little TMI questions here....are you also not allowed to have oral sex? Does that count?

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    1. LOL! TMI is ok. I never actually asked straight out. Didn't want to with my Mom and MIL there, but I will be asking if it's just penetration or orgasm too. I think that is out too because orgasm causes uterine and cervical contractions. I think the worry is that it could start labor.

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  5. I use the exact same positioning for my PIO shots when we did them. Rarely did I have pain unless J didn't wait for the alcohol to dry fully.

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  6. Oh man, I'm sorry to hear about the pelvic rest stuff... believe me, I understand how much that sucks! The good news is that you do have a wonderful and loving partner, and your babies are doing great. Hang in there!

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  7. When I did the PIO shots, my husband was out of state. I didn't want to have a friend come over every night so I gave them to myself. I used basically the position you described with legs slightly apart and feet turned inward a little. I had to do it in front of the bathroom mirror, standing at an angle or almost sideways so I could see a little of what I was doing. I never had issues with lumps and didn't bruise up horribly despite being on blood thinners (injected into my stomach which did bruise a lot!). I never had problems with hitting a nerve. The nurses at my clinic were somewhat amazed that I was able to give myself the PIO shots pretty successfully. So, I say - whatever your doctor thinks is best and works best for you!

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